Their bodies? After my freshman son took the required university course content on sexuality and consent I had this brief conversation with him:. Even with marriage you run the risks of being held responsible for screwed up situations both social such as the rise of social pressure of turning men into cuckolds so women can havenit all even within a marriage and legal of which are numerous. All those toxic women classmates will be the same toxic women in marriage marketplace. Good luck with that. Good article. Why are these old journalist perverts so interested in sex between consenting adults half their own age?
Who cares whether or not a rape actually occurred in the first place, or whether the accused committed it? Screw due process. If asking those questions of a rape victim runs the risk of making her feel worse than she already does then we should simply listen and believe instead. However, when society at large still has a hard time even just comprehending how a man could possibly be raped, while women are taken seriously enough already that even just an accusation is enough to ruin lives, the exclusion by Ms. Sarkeesian of men renders her sincerity all the more questionable.
We see this as just another reason to see MSM as the fake news it is. We see men pilloried in the court of public opinion or accused of rape in grotesque kangaroo court like actions…. I always have this in the back of my mind when I think about dating or even striking up a conversation with a women…. Women have always had sexual power in modern times. Feminism seeks to weaponise the sexual enterprise for control. And it is exactly less attractive women who are feminists and try to rise the cost for sex with women for men the most.
And men cannot defend themselves, because they are trapped emotionally as the good guys who should protect and nurture women — people and society almost automatically sees women as valuable and worthy to be defended — automatically the good ones — and men as the aggressors or evil party. Men cannot do anything easily for the defense of their interests because if they do they are seen as the bad guys or weak, unmanly clowns who fear women.
Far better to develop a relationship with a lady off campus, or dispense with dating altogether until post-graduation. I am not an American I am German , but my brother did business in the US and was briefed by his company associates there that he must avoid riding an elevator alone with a woman — he should take the stairs or wait for another elevator, to reduce the risk of sexual harassment accusations which could cost the company a big sum and cause lots of distractions and problems.
This was in It seems the issue here is not just limited to college campuses. Witness the firestorm vice President Pence created when he said that he does not have dinner alone with any woman other than his wife. The media became apoplectic over his remark, which he does to remain above reproach Billy Graham said something similar a long time ago. I totally agree with the post above about ugly women using this to raise their value.
You never see attractive women complaining about dating and relationships or how bad men are. Women with tattoos, piercings, drug problems or parents with such problems should be avoided — they may look sexy and seem nice, but their genetic potential seems defective — and such women advertise their mental defects with their physical appearance.
Pussyhats, fatpositivism, feminism and all the other crazy stuff can serve as a behavioral warning for the discerning man who looks for a good partner to possibly make children with. Hmm I am not understanding the reasoning. It seems pretty logical that if rape is up sex of course would be down. And it basically says that because men are scared and playing video games instead of pursuing women more that everyone is having less sex.
Also if men in general are playing more video games etc instead of pursuing platonic genuine social interactions of course women might be less interested in them. Alternate Hypothesises not even considered, 1. Because the population of more sensitive respectful men are scared and pursuing other pastimes. The most aggressive and disrespectful males are still out there now interacting with now a higher percentage of the population of women. Thus less men are raping but more women are still being raped.
How about a control group: What about established couples? Are they having less sex too? Perhaps it is about power. And now women do have more power. And It might just be part of the process for the pedulum to swing the other way before it comes to balance. However I think men might be upset because for the first time they are getting a taste of what not feeling safe regarding sexual encounters in like. This is something that women have always had to deal with.
Being able to experience how the other side feels is often valuable. Feel safe? People feeling safe can have very little to do with reality and everything to do with perception…. Society, aka cultural Marxists, have lied to women for fifty years now. They lied to women by telling them they were just like men in every way, even sexually. Accordingly, when women began acting like men i.
Accordingly, the cultural Marxists had to tell more lies because their narrative could not be questioned. Their answer i. In former times, this was called marriage. Having a sex culture without a marriage culture has terrible personal costs.
The rape of women and false rape accusations of men are a direct link. Rape including rape culture accusations. Fatherless children. Social problems. Of course not. But they are all increased when we put sex before marriage. The answer is staring us in the face and the solution is as old as life or the Bible itself. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Latter day Saints Mormons recognize that God has explained: Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.
What are the costs vs benefits of following this counsel? What are the costs vs benefits of the sex before marriage culture? The former benefits seem overwhelming. Maybe we could quote: they shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand.
And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it. A great and spacious building; and it stood as it were in the air, high above the earth. And it was filled with people, both old and young, both male and female; and their manner of dress was exceedingly fine; and they were in the attitude of mocking and pointing their fingers.
Thus shall be the destruction of all nations, kindreds, tongues, and people, that shall fight against the twelve apostles of the Lamb. Sorry my contribution is not more secular for our modem tastes, but our secular only answers might be contributing to the problem. Why is it not made clear that college students are not reporting the decline? If you are worried about false accusations, try getting to know the person first and find out if they are crazy before sleeping with them.
It also avoids crazed stalkers and debit card thieves. Underreporting rape is a huge problem, so actively encouraging women to come forward is important. That may cause an up-tick in false accusations, but the world is complicated that way. Which is exactly why we are having less sex. Men just give up and dont bother to navigate these treacherous waters,. Brilliant suggestion, Bill.
Because of course nobody on the face of the Earth has ever put on a false face. Do tell Bill, because it smells an awful lot like a load of bullshit from here. Dude, listen. It has nothing to do with insecurity or desperation, this is the world that self-loathing beta males and misandrist feminists have created for us.
They wake up after a drunk night and feel ashamed and try to blame someone else to make themselves feel less dirty. You friend seems insane. Presumably a woman would have an idea about social stigmas and her own feelings about casual sex before she even gets to the keg party but she does it anyway and punishes the guy for her predictable emotional reaction. How is that just? The problem is that someone can be ruined by a kangaroo court based on a spurious accusation. It works the other way, too, lives ruined because rapes were not reported.
We can only strive for balance. Perhaps the reason you support campus tribunals is because the due process rights of the accused are virtually nonexistent? Been divorced, raked over the coals, falsely accused of child abuse and more. Fought for joint custody of daughters for over 5 years. Dating in my 50s — women are either porny wannabees or looking for that income stream now that they are over 40, divorced ad nearly insolvent.
I read a news article today that a Washington woman who left her newborn in a trash compactor to die can still potentially get custody of her son. Pingback: Naked Power Spawny's Space. Maybe back when our parents and grandparents were going to college, the people who ran things knew what they were doing after all with single-sex residence halls, curfews, restricted or zero — and never overnight — opposite sex visitation and heavily chaperoned mixed-sex social events. It would be nice if we could let single young men and women freely mix, unsupervised, at all hours.
A few decades ago, without realizing it we switched to 1 and 3. There are some single-sex colleges and universities out there, and even at least a few coed places which kept these time-honored protections for both sexes. All she has to say is sexual harassment and you will be immediately fired and have your reputation ruined. Are they scared into abstinence by rape culture hysteria? Or are they having a totally different experience to men?
Fathers of this country are the first vestiges to let down men. They do not teach their daughters their are consequences for their actions ruining young men lives with false accusations. Fathers should be teaching them to clean their room no acceptions , helping set the table, throw out the trash, vacuum their room, change the oil or tires on a car. It will be your car when you make the payments and the insurance. These are all principles that build self-esteem and give a belongingness to the family rather than the unit being a tool to feed their popularity and importance of nothing.
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The classic female irony. It is, however, among artists, at that time and later, that homosexuality may most notably be traced. Leonardo da Vinci, whose ideals as revealed in his work are so strangely bisexual, lay under homosexual suspicion in his youth. In , when he was 24 years of age, charges were made against him before the Florentine officials for the control of public morality, and were repeated, though they do not appear to have been substantiated.
There is, however, some ground for supposing that Leonardo was imprisoned in his youth.
Freud, who has studied Leonardo with his usual subtlety, considers that his temperament was marked by "ideal homosexuality. Michelangelo, one of the very chief artists of the Renaissance period, we cannot now doubt, was sexually inverted. The evidence furnished by his own letters and poems, as well as the researches of numerous recent workers,—Parlagreco, Scheffler, J.
Symonds, etc. His biographer describes Michelangelo as "a man of peculiar, not altogether healthy, nervous temperament. At the same time there is no reason to suppose that he formed any physically passionate relationships with men, and even his enemies seldom or never made this accusation against him. We may probably accept the estimate of his character given by Symonds:—. Michelangelo Buonarotti was one of those exceptional, but not uncommon men who are born with sensibilities abnormally deflected from the ordinary channel.
He showed no partiality for women, and a notable enthusiasm for the beauty of young men He was a man of physically frigid temperament, extremely sensitive to beauty of the male type, who habitually philosophized his emotions, and contemplated the living objects of his admiration as amiable, not only for their personal qualities, but also for their esthetical attractiveness.
A temperament of this kind seems to have had no significance for the men of those days; they were blind to all homosexual emotion which had no result in sodomy. Plato found such attraction a subject for sentimental metaphysics, but it was not until nearly our own time that it again became a subject of interest and study. Yet it undoubtedly had profound influence on Michelangelo's art, impelling him to find every kind of human beauty in the male form, and only a grave dignity or tenderness, divorced from every quality that is sexually desirable, in the female form.
This deeply rooted abnormality is at once the key to the melancholy of Michelangelo and to the mystery of his art. Michelangelo's contemporary, the painter Bazzi , seems also to have been radically inverted, and to this fact he owed his nickname Sodoma. As, however, he was married and had children, it may be that he was, as we should now say, of bisexual temperament.
He was a great artist who has been dealt with unjustly, partly, perhaps, because of the prejudice of Vasari,—whose admiration for Michelangelo amounted to worship, but who is contemptuous toward Sodoma and grudging of praise,—partly because his work is little known out of Italy and not very easy of access there. Reckless, unbalanced, and eccentric in his life, Sodoma revealed in his painting a peculiar feminine softness and warmth—which indeed we seem to see also in his portrait of himself at Monte Oliveto Maggiore—and a very marked and tender feeling for masculine, but scarcely virile, beauty.
Cellini was probably homosexual. He was imprisoned on a charge of unnatural vice and is himself suspiciously silent in his autobiography concerning this imprisonment. In more recent times Winkelmann, who was the initiator of a new Greek Renaissance and of the modern appreciation of ancient art, lies under what seems to be a well-grounded suspicion of sexual inversion. His letters to male friends are full of the most passionate expressions of love.
His violent death also appears to have been due to a love-adventure with a man. The murderer was a cook, a wholly uncultivated man, a criminal who had already been condemned to death, and shortly before murdering Winkelmann for the sake of plunder he was found to be on very intimate terms with him.
It must not, however, be too hastily concluded that this is due to suggestion and that to abolish the study of Greek literature and art would be largely to abolish sexual inversion. What has really occurred in those recent cases that may be studied, and therefore without doubt in the older cases, is that the subject of congenital sexual inversion is attracted to the study of Greek antiquity because he finds there the explanation and the apotheosis of his own obscure impulses.
Undoubtedly that study tends to develop these impulses. While it is peculiarly easy to name men of distinguished ability who, either certainly or in all probability, have been affected by homosexual tendencies, they are not isolated manifestations. They spring out of an element of diffused homosexuality which is at least as marked in civilization as it is in savagery. It is easy to find illustrations in every country. Here it may suffice to refer to France, Germany, and England.
In France in the thirteenth century the Church was so impressed by the prevalence of homosexuality that it reasserted the death penalty for sodomy at the Councils of Paris and Rouen , while we are told that even by rejecting a woman's advances as illustrated in Marie de France's Lai de Lanval a man fell under suspicion as a sodomist, which was also held to involve heresy.
A few years later, at the beginning of the fourteenth century, sodomy was still regarded as very prevalent. At that time it was especially associated with the Templars who, it has been supposed, brought it from the East. Such a supposition, however, is not required to account for the existence of homosexuality in France. Nor is it necessary, at a somewhat later period, to invoke, as is frequently done, the Italian origin of Catherine de Medici, in order to explain the prevalence of homosexual practices at her court.
Notwithstanding its prevalence, sodomy was still severely punished from time to time. Thus in , Dadon, who had formerly been Rector of the University of Paris, was hanged and then burned for injuring a child through sodomy. How prominent homosexuality was, in the early eighteenth century in France, we learn from the frequent references to it in the letters of Madame, the mother of the Regent, whose husband was himself effeminate and probably inverted.
Inverts whose conduct became too offensive to be tolerated were frequently placed in the Bastille which, indeed "abounded in homosexual subjects," to a greater extent than any other class of sexual perverts. Some of the affairs which led to the Bastille have a modern air. One such case on a large scale occurred in , and reveals an organized system of homosexual prostitution; one of the persons involved in this affair was a handsome, well-made youth named Lebel, formerly a lackey, but passing himself off as a man of quality.
Seduced at the age of 10 by a famous sodomist named Duplessis, he had since been at the disposition of a number of homosexual persons, including officers, priests, and marquises. Inversion has always been easy to trace in Germany. Ammianus Marcellinus bears witness to its prevalence among some German tribes in later Roman days.
Various princes of the German Imperial house, and of other princely families in the Middle Ages, were noted for their intimate friendships. At a later date, attention has frequently been called to the extreme emotional warmth which has often marked German friendship, even when there has been no suspicion of any true homosexual relationship. On this basis a really inverted tendency, when it existed, could easily come to the surface and find expression.
We find this well illustrated in the poet Heinrich von Kleist who seems to have been of bisexual temperament, and his feelings for the girl he wished to marry were, indeed, much cooler than those for his friend. When you used to bathe in the Lake of Thun I would gaze with the real feelings of a girl at your beautiful body. It would serve an artist to study from. I shall never marry; you must be wife and children to me.
In all social classes and in all fields of activity, Germany during the nineteenth century produced a long series of famous or notorious homosexual persons. Krupp, the head of the famous Essen factory, may be regarded as the type. In England and the same is true today of the United States , although homosexuality has been less openly manifest and less thoroughly explored, it is doubtful whether it has been less prevalent than in Germany. At an early period, indeed, the evidence may even seem to show that it was more prevalent. In the Penitentials of the ninth and tenth centuries "natural fornication and sodomy" were frequently put together and the same penance assigned to both; it was recognized that priests and bishops, as well as laymen, might fall into this sin, though to the bishop nearly three times as much penance was assigned as to the layman.
Among the Normans, everywhere, homosexuality was markedly prevalent; the spread of sodomy in France about the eleventh century is attributed to the Normans, and their coming seems to have rendered it at times almost fashionable, at all events at court. Ordericus Vitalis, who was himself half Norman and half English, says that the Normans had become very effeminate in his time, and that after the death of William the Conqueror sodomy was common both in England and Normandy.
Guillaume de Nangis, in his chronicle for about , speaking of the two sons of Henry and the company of young nobles who went down with them, in the White Ship , states that nearly all were considered to be sodomists, and Henry of Huntingdon, in his History , looked upon the loss of the White Ship as a judgment of heaven upon sodomy. Anselm, in writing to Archdeacon William to inform him concerning the recent Council at London , gives advice as to how to deal with people who have committed the sin of sodomy, and instructs him not to be too harsh with those who have not realized its gravity, for hitherto "this sin has been so public that hardly anyone has blushed for it, and many, therefore, have plunged into it without realizing its gravity.
In religious circles far from courts and cities, as we might expect, homosexuality was regarded with great horror, though even here we may discover evidence of its wide prevalence. Thus in the remarkable Revelation of the Monk of Evesham, written in English in , we find that in the very worst part of Purgatory are confined an innumerable company of sodomists including a wealthy, witty, and learned divine, a doctor of laws, personally known to the Monk , and whether these people would ever be delivered from Purgatory was a matter of doubt; of the salvation of no other sinners does the Monk of Evesham seem so dubious.
Sodomy had always been an ecclesiastical offense. At this period the Renaissance movement was reaching England, and here as elsewhere it brought with it, if not an increase, at all events a rehabilitation and often an idealization of homosexuality. An eminent humanist and notable pioneer in dramatic literature, Nicholas Udall, to whom is attributed Ralph Roister Doister , the first English comedy, stands out as unquestionably addicted to homosexual tastes, although he has left no literary evidence of this tendency.
He was an early adherent of the Protestant movement, and when head-master of Eton he was noted for his love of inflicting corporal punishment on the boys.
Tusser says he once received from Udall 53 stripes for "fault but small or none at all. He was dismissed from the head-mastership and imprisoned, but only for a short time, "and his reputation," his modern biographer states, "was not permanently injured. Queen Mary was also favorable and he became head-master of Westminster School. An Elizabethan lyrical poet of high quality, whose work has had the honor of being confused with Shakespeare's, Richard Barnfield, appears to have possessed the temperament, at least, of the invert.
His poems to male friends are of so impassioned a character that they aroused the protests of a very tolerant age. Very little is known of Barnfield's life. Born in he published his first poem, The Affectionate Shepherd , at the age of 20, while still at the University. It was issued anonymously, revealed much fresh poetic feeling and literary skill, and is addressed to a youth of whom the poet declares:—. In his subsequent volume, Cynthia , Barnfield disclaims any intention in the earlier poem beyond that of imitating Virgil's second eclogue. But the sonnets in this second volume are even more definitely homosexual than the earlier poem, though he goes on to tell how at last he found a lass whose beauty surpassed that.
After the age of 31 Barnfield wrote no more, but, being in easy circumstances, retired to his beautiful manor house and country estate in Shropshire, lived there for twenty years and died leaving a wife and son. Barnfield was only a genuine poet on the homosexual side of his nature. Greater men of that age than Barnfield may be suspected of homosexual tendencies. Marlowe, whose most powerful drama, Edward II , is devoted to a picture of the relations between that king and his minions, is himself suspected of homosexuality.
An ignorant informer brought certain charges of freethought and criminality against him, and further accused him of asserting that they are fools who love not boys. These charges have doubtless been colored by the vulgar channel through which they passed, but it seems absolutely impossible to regard them as the inventions of a mere gallows-bird such as this informer was. Marlowe clearly had a reckless delight in all things unlawful, and it seems probable that he possessed the bisexual temperament.
Shakespeare has also been discussed from this point of view. All that can be said, however, is that he addressed a long series of sonnets to a youthful male friend. These sonnets are written in lover's language of a very tender and noble order. They do not appear to imply any relationship that the writer regarded as shameful or that would be so regarded by the world. Moreover, they seem to represent but a single episode in the life of a very sensitive, many-sided nature. While Shakespeare thus narrowly escapes inclusion in the list of distinguished inverts, there is much better ground for the inclusion of his great contemporary, Francis Bacon.
Aubrey in his laboriously compiled Short Lives , in which he shows a friendly and admiring attitude toward Bacon, definitely states that he was a pederast. Aubrey was only a careful gleaner of frequently authentic gossip, but a similar statement is made by Sir Simonds D'Ewes in his Autobiography. D'Ewes, whose family belonged to the same part of Suffolk as Bacon's sprang from, was not friendly to Bacon, but that fact will not suffice to account for his statement. He was an upright and honorable man of scholarly habits, and, moreover, a trained lawyer, who had many opportunities of obtaining first-hand information, for he had lived in the Chancery office from childhood.
He is very precise as to Bacon's homosexual practices with his own servants, both before and after his fall, and even gives the name of a "very effeminate-faced youth" who was his "catamite and bedfellow"; he states, further, that there had been some question of bringing Bacon to trial for sodomy. These allegations may be supported by a letter of Bacon's own mother printed in Spedding's Life of Bacon , reproving him on account of what she had heard concerning his behavior with the young Welshmen in his service whom he made his bedfellows.
It is notable that Bacon seems to have been specially attracted to Welshmen one might even find evidence of this in the life of the Welshman, Henry VII , a people of vivacious temperament unlike his own; this is illustrated by his long and intimate friendship with the mercurial Sir Toby Mathew, his "alter ego," a man of dissipated habits in early life, though we are not told that he was homosexual.
Bacon had many friendships with men, but there is no evidence that he was ever in love or cherished any affectionate intimacy with a woman. Women play no part at all in his life. His marriage, which was childless, took place at the mature age of 46; it was effected in a business-like manner, and though he always treated his wife with formal consideration it is probable that he neglected her, and certain that he failed to secure her devotion; it is clear that toward the end of Bacon's life she formed a relationship with her gentleman usher, whom subsequently she married.
Bacon's writings, it may be added, equally with his letters, show no evidence of love or attraction to women; in his Essays he is brief and judicial on the subject of Marriage, copious and eloquent on the subject of Friendship, while the essay on Beauty deals exclusively with masculine beauty. During the first half of the eighteenth century we have clear evidence that homosexuality flourished in London with the features which it presents today in all large cities everywhere. There was a generally known name, "Mollies," applied to homosexual persons, evidently having reference to their frequently feminine characteristics; there were houses of private resort for them "Molly houses" , there were special public places of rendezvous whither they went in search of adventure, exactly as there are today.
A walk in Upper Moorfields was especially frequented by the homosexual about A detective employed by the police about that date gave evidence as follows at the Old Bailey; "I takes a turn that way and leans over the wall. In a little time the prisoner passes by, and looks hard at me, and at a small distance from me stands up against the wall as if he was going to make water.
Then by degrees he siddles nearer and nearer to where I stood, till at last he was close to me. At the same period Margaret Clap, commonly called Mother Clap, kept a house in Field Lane, Holborn, which was a noted resort of the homosexual. To Mother Clap's Molly-house 30 or 40 clients would resort every night; on Sunday there might be as many as 50, for, as in Berlin and other cities today, that was the great homosexual gala night; there were beds in every room in this house.
We are told that the "men would sit in one another's laps, kissing in a lewd manner and using their hands indecently. Then they would get up, dance and make curtsies, and mimic the voices of women, 'Oh, fie, sir,'—'Pray, sir,'—'Dear sir,'—'Lord, how can you serve me so? On the whole one gains the impression that homosexual practices were more prevalent in London in the eighteenth century, bearing in mind its population at that time, than they are today.
The very reverse was the case. The punishment for sodomy, when completely effected, was death, and it was frequently inflicted. Homosexual intercourse, without evidence of penetration, was regarded as "attempt" and was usually punished by the pillory and a heavy fine, followed by two years' imprisonment.
Moreover, it would appear that more activity was shown by the police in prosecution than is nowadays the case; this is, for instance, suggested by the evidence of the detective already quoted. To keep a homosexual resort was also a severely punishable offense. Mother Clap was charged at the Old Bailey in with "keeping a sodomitical house"; she protested that she could not herself have taken part in these practices, but that availed her nothing; she could bring forward no witnesses on her behalf and was condemned to pay a fine, to stand in the pillory, and to undergo imprisonment for two years.
The cases were dealt with in a matter-of-fact way which seems to bear further witness to the frequency of the offense, and with no effort to expend any specially vindictive harshness on this class of offenders. If there was the slightest doubt as to the facts, even though the balance of evidence was against the accused, he was usually acquitted, and the man who could bring witnesses to his general good character might often thereby escape.
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In a religious young man, married, was convicted of attempting sodomy with two young men he slept with; he was fined, placed in the pillory and imprisoned for two months. Next year a man was acquitted on a similar charge, and another man, of decent aspect, although the evidence indicated that he might have been guilty of sodomy, was only convicted of attempt, and sentenced to fine, pillory, and two years' imprisonment. In , again, a schoolmaster was acquitted, on account of his good reputation, of the charge of attempt on a boy of 15, his pupil, though the evidence seemed decidedly against him.
In a man was sentenced to death for sodomy effected on his young apprentice; this was a bad case and the surgeon's evidence indicated laceration of the perineum. Homosexuality of all kinds flourished, it will be seen, notwithstanding the fearless yet fair application of a very severe law. In more recent times Byron has frequently been referred to as experiencing homosexual affections, and I have been informed that some of his poems nominally addressed to women were really inspired by men.
It is certain that he experienced very strong emotions toward his male friends. The most famous homosexual trial of recent times in England was that of Oscar Wilde, a writer whose literary reputation may be said to be still growing, not only in England but throughout the world. Wilde was the son of parents who were both of unusual ability and somewhat eccentric. Both these tendencies became in him more concentrated. He was born with, as it were, a congenital antipathy to the commonplace, a natural love of paradox, and he possessed the skill to embody the characteristic in finished literary form.
At the same time, it must not be forgotten, beneath this natural attitude of paradox, his essential judgments on life and literature were usually sound and reasonable. His essay on "The Soul of Man Under Socialism" witnessed to his large and enlightened conception of life, and his profound admiration for Flaubert to the sanity and solidity of his literary taste. In early life he revealed no homosexual tendencies; he married and had children.
After he had begun to outgrow his youthful esthetic extravagances, however, and to acquire success and fame, he developed what was at first a simply inquisitive interest in inversion. Such inquisitive interest is sometimes the sign of an emerging homosexual impulse. It proved to be so in Wilde's case and ultimately he was found to be cultivating the acquaintance of youths of low class and doubtful character. Although this development occurred comparatively late in life, we must hesitate to describe Wilde's homosexuality as acquired. If we consider his constitution and his history, it is not difficult to suppose that homosexual germs were present in a latent form from the first, and it may quite well be that Wilde's inversion was of that kind which is now described as retarded, though still congenital.
As is usual in England, no active efforts were made to implicate Wilde in any criminal charge. It was his own action, as even he himself seems to have vaguely realized beforehand, which brought the storm about his head. He was arrested, tried, condemned, and at once there arose a general howl of execration, joined in even by the judge, whose attitude compared unfavorably with the more impartial attitude of the eighteenth century judges in similar cases.
Wilde came out of prison ambitious to retrieve his reputation by the quality of his literary work. But he left Reading gaol merely to enter a larger and colder prison. He soon realized that his spirit was broken even more than his health. He drifted at last to Paris, where he shortly after died, shunned by all but a few of his friends.
In a writer of the first order, Edward Fitzgerald, to whom we owe the immortal and highly individualized version of Omar Khayyam , it is easy to trace an element of homosexuality, though it appears never to have reached full and conscious development. Fitzgerald was an eccentric person who, though rich and on friendly terms with some of the most distinguished men of his time, was always out of harmony with his environment.
He felt himself called on to marry, very unhappily, a woman whom he had never been in love with and with whom he had nothing in common. All his affections were for his male friends. In early life he was devoted to his friend W. Browne, whom he glorified in Euphranor. In at Lowestoft, Fitzgerald, as he wrote to Mrs. Browne, "used to wander about the shore at night longing for some fellow to accost me who might give some promise of filling up a very vacant place in my heart.
Posh reminded Fitzgerald of his dead friend Browne; he made him captain of his lugger, and was thereafter devoted to him. Further he was a man of simplicity; of soul, justice of thought, tenderness of nature, a gentleman of Nature's grandest type," in fact the "greatest man" Fitzgerald had ever met.
Posh was not, however, quite so absolutely perfect as this description suggests, and various misunderstandings arose in consequence between the two friends so unequal in culture and social traditions. These difficulties are reflected in some of the yet extant letters from the enormous mass which Fitzgerald addressed to "my dear Poshy.
A great personality of recent times, widely regarded with reverence as the prophet-poet of Democracy  —Walt Whitman—has aroused discussion by his sympathetic attitude toward passionate friendship, or "manly love" as he calls it, in Leaves of Grass. In this book—in "Calamus," "Drumtaps," and elsewhere—Whitman celebrates a friendship in which physical contact and a kind of silent voluptuous emotion are essential elements.
In order to settle the question as to the precise significance of "Calamus," J. Symonds wrote to Whitman, frankly posing the question. The answer written from Camden, N. Leaves of Grass is only to be rightly construed by and within its own atmosphere and essential character—all its pages and pieces so coming strictly under. That the 'Calamus' part has ever allowed the possibility of such construction as mentioned is terrible. I am fain to hope that the pages themselves are not to be even mentioned for such gratuitous and quite at the time undreamed and unwished possibility of morbid inferences—which are disavowed by me and seem damnable.
It would seem from this letter  that Whitman had never realized that there is any relationship whatever between the passionate emotion of physical contact from man to man, as he had experienced it and sung it, and the act which with other people he would regard as a crime against nature. This may be singular, for there are many inverted persons who have found satisfaction in friendships less physical and passionate than those described in Leaves of Grass , but Whitman was a man of concrete, emotional, instinctive temperament, lacking in analytical power, receptive to all influences, and careless of harmonizing them.
He would most certainly have refused to admit that he was the subject of inverted sexuality. It remains true, however, that "manly love" occupies in his work a predominance which it would scarcely hold in the feelings of the "average man," whom Whitman wishes to honor. A normally constituted person, having assumed the very frank attitude taken up by Whitman, would be impelled to devote far more space and far more ardor to the subject of sexual relationships with women and all that is involved in maternity than is accorded to them in Leaves of Grass.
Some of Whitman's extant letters to young men, though they do not throw definite light on this question, are of a very affectionate character,  and, although a man of remarkable physical vigor, he never felt inclined to marry. I should add that some friends and admirers of Whitman are not prepared to accept the evidence of the letter to Symonds.
I am indebted to "Q. And this for three or four reasons:—. That it is difficult to reconcile the letter itself with its strong tone of disapprobation with the general 'atmosphere' of Leaves of Grass , the tenor of which is to leave everything open and free. That the letter is in hopeless conflict with the 'Calamus' section of poems. For, whatever moral lines Whitman may have drawn at the time of writing these poems, it seems to me quite incredible that the possibility of certain inferences, morbid or other, was undreamed of.
That the letter was written only a few months before his last illness and death, and is the only expression of the kind that he appears to have given utterance to. That Symonds's letter, to which this was a reply, is not forth coming; and we consequently do not know what rash expressions it may have contained—leading Whitman with his extreme caution to hedge his name from possible use to justify dubious practices.
I may add that I endeavored to obtain Symonds's letter, but he was unable to produce it, nor has any copy of it been found among his papers. It should be said that Whitman's attitude toward Symonds was marked by high regard and admiration. Symonds is a curious fellow; I love him dearly. He is of college breed and education, horribly literary and suspicious, and enjoys things. A great fellow for delving into persons and into the concrete, and even into the physiological and the gastric, and wonderfully cute. The foregoing remarks substantially contained in the previous editions of this book were based mainly on the information received from J.
Symonds's side. But of more recent years interesting light has been thrown on this remarkable letter from Walt Whitman's side. The Boswellian patience, enthusiasm, and skill which Horace Traubel has brought to his full and elaborate work, now in course of publication, With Walt Whitman in Camden , clearly reveal, in the course of various conversations, Whitman's attitude to Symonds's question and the state of mind which led up to this letter. Whitman talked to Traubel much about Symonds from the twenty-seventh of April, very soon after the date when Traubel's work begins , onward.
Symonds had written to him repeatedly, it seems, concerning the "passional relations of men with men," as Whitman expressed it. I have said no, but no does not satisfy him. He is surely a wonderful man—a rare, cleaned-up man—a white-souled, heroic character You will be writing something about Calamus some day," said W. Calamus needs clear ideas; it may be easily, innocently distorted from its natural, its motive, body of doctrine. The letter, dated Feb. It tells how much Leaves of Grass , and especially the Calamus section, had helped the writer.
What it is here now, I know also—alas! What you say it can and should be I dimly discern in your Poems. But this hardly satisfies me—so desirous am I of learning what you teach. Some day, perhaps,—in some form, I know not what, but in your own chosen form,—you will tell me more about the Love of Friends. Till then I wait. Do you think that could be answered?
It's quiet enough—it only asks questions, and asks the questions mildly enough,' 'I suppose you are right—"drive" is not exactly the word: yet you know how I hate to be catechised. Symonds is right, no doubt, to ask the questions: I am just as much right if I do not answer them: just as much right if I do answer them. I often say to myself about Calamus—perhaps it means more or less than what I thought myself—means different: perhaps I don't know what it all means—perhaps never did know.
My first instinct about all that Symonds writes is violently reactionary—is strong and brutal for no, no, no. Then the thought intervenes that I maybe do not know all my own meanings: I say to myself: "You, too, go away, come back, study your own book—as alien or stranger, study your own book, see what it amounts to. Again, a month later May 24, , Whitman speaks to Traubel of a "beautiful letter" from Symonds.
I don't see why it should, but his recurrence to that subject irritates me a little. I suppose you might say—why don't you shut him up by answering him? There is no logical answer to that I suppose: but I may ask in my turn: 'What right has he to ask questions anyway? He is courteous enough about it—that is the reason I do not resent him. I suppose the whole thing will end in an answer some day. The letter follows. The chief point in it is that the writer hopes he has not been importunate in the question he had asked about Calamus three years before. He doesn't ask you to answer the old question.
In fact he rather apologizes for having asked it. As to that question, he does ask it again and again: asks it, asks it, asks it. It does not harm. Besides, you've got nothing to hide. I think your silence might lead him to suppose there was a nigger in your wood pile. But for thirty years my enemies and friends have been asking me questions about the Leaves : I'm tired of not answering questions.
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Amy Holman is a poet and literary consultant occasionally writing essays and fiction in Brooklyn, New York, and who teaches poetry workshops at The Hudson Valley Writers Center. I ; Vol. II , etc. She left Brooklyn for Seattle in late She is the recipient of a Acker Award For Fiction. About the Event: "A Voice from the Underworld," the serialized version of Alice Smith's story, originally published in the San Francisco Bulletin in , has until its recent republication, gone forgotten as a key piece of radical U. Alice Smith's story attracted the attention of the famed anarchist and feminist activist Emma Goldman, who found "A Voice from the Underworld", and the many letters written in response by other working class women and sex workers, to offer a uniquely radical perspective on the questions of sex, class, gender, and marriage.
The publication of "A Voice from the Underworld" also marks a significant transition in the career of newspaper editor Fremont Older, who later gained fame within radical circles for his work with criminals Donald Lowrie and Jack Black in the name of prison reform, and his defense of Tom Mooney and Warren Billings, San Francisco's own Sacco and Vanzetti, who were wrongfully convicted of bombing the pro-war "Preparedness Day" parade that took place in In , Fremont Older would work with several of the sex workers he had met during the run of Alice's story to organize the first sex worker's rights protest in U.